It’s the age-old problem: You’re happy and in love during the school year, but as finals week rolls around, you begin questioning your relationship. Can you make it through the long-distance over summer? Do you even want to try?
While every college couple has a unique situation, many try out long-distance, and you can too!
Honestly, it is difficult but not impossible to remain strong without being in the same city.
Below are some tips for surviving a long-distance relationship over summer.
Be willing to put in effort.
This seems somewhat self-explanatory, but it’s worth mentioning. Make sure both of you are willing to work for the relationship.
If you’re on different pages, you’ll both end up unhappy. If you’re concerned about anything, don’t be afraid to bring it up with your partner!
You deserve to be treated well, even when your partner is in another city.
Keep up face-to-face communication.
Text messaging is the most convenient way to talk, but it’s not the same as seeing your significant other in person.
You might not be able to see a movie together, but you can get creative with your video chats.
Try having a Skype date in a coffee shop or over a candlelit dinner. It won’t be the same, but it’ll help keep you connected.
If you can, take a trip to see your partner! But if it’s too far, consider meeting halfway. Your days together will be even sweeter after spending some time apart.
Focus on the positives.
It’s such a cliche, but focusing on the positive things will make it easier to be apart. Yes, your relationship has become a bit more challenging, but that doesn’t mean you have to be unhappy!
Instead of thinking about the miles between you, think about why you love your partner so much. When texting, play a game.
Go back and forth sharing something you each like about each other or asking questions. This will remind you why you’re in this relationship and keep your mind off the distance.
Enjoy the time you have together and use the summer to deepen your relationship. Send handwritten letters, thoughtful gifts or care packages to your partner.
Let your SO know that you’re thinking about them.
Take advantage of your free time.
We all know relationships are time-consuming, but with your partner in another city you’ll be able to have some free time to yourself. Use it to learn a new skill, meet new friends or just relax.
Don’t sit around missing your S.O.! Keep yourself occupied — after all, you’ve got your own life.
Be considerate of your partner’s feelings.
Being in different cities requires very open communication and trust. Feeling a little jealous of your partner’s time and friendships while apart is normal, as long as it doesn’t get out of hand.
Have a conversation with your partner on any concern each of you may have.
Make sure you validate their feelings, let them know you care and try to be considerate. For example, if they would prefer that you don’t hang out with old partners, try to respect that.
The key to any long-distance relationship is communication.
Make sure your partner feels appreciated, and don’t forget why you started dating in the first place! You’ll be back in the same city in no time.
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