Her Side: Having a best friend of opposite gender

There’s absolutely nothing wrong with having a best friend of the opposite gender.

Personally, I have more guy friends than girl friends, because I feel more comfortable confiding and interacting with them on a platonic level.

Being in a relationship does not mean you have to drop all your friends and best friend in order to make things with your girlfriend to work.

It’s important to have a solid circle of friends, particularly when you have a significant other. But there are certain boundaries you need to set with your best gal friend and things you need to do.

Introduce your girlfriend to your gal BFF.

It’s clear that your best friend means a lot to you, and I think it’s important to introduce your girlfriend to your gal BFF. Hiding her from your girlfriend, will make her think that you’re having an affair behind her back.

Keep your girlfriend aware of any meetings or hangouts.

Do not hide any lunches or study sessions from us. No matter how faithful you are, keeping it in the dark will raise suspicion and red flags in our minds.

My former college best friend accused me of trying to steal her boyfriend, also my good friend, because we had a 30-minute lunch at the campus cafeteria, in front of a 100 students, without her there. It’s scary, even for us; don’t let it get that far!

Remember that your girlfriend is your new confidant.

You don’t need to tell her everything; really, you don’t. But you have to resist the urge to rush to tell your gal BFF first about all the good and bad news.

You won’t be able to confide in your girlfriend, in the beginning stages, but over time, you’ll have a firm foundation and a trusting bond, where y’all can tell each other the good, the bad and the ugly.

Keep it platonic!

Simply put, this means no long hugs, no secret dinners, more group hangouts and less one-on-one time, and just everything else stated above!

You can definitely still communicate with her, but make sure your gal BFF doesn’t leave your girlfriend second-guessing the relationship.

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