Navigating the first stages of a relationship

So you managed to snag the crush that you’ve been helplessly pursuing during the semester. Congrats! After all that stress of appropriating timing and managing to control your eagerness, you probably figured the worst was over. Wrong!

To maintain a healthy and happy relationship, it takes a constant, continual effort. Think of everyday as another chance to have your partner fall deeper for you than they already do!

Here’s your guide for navigating the first stages of your relationship:

Make it official.

I know I’ve already congratulated you, but just so that all of us are on the same page here, make sure that your partner is at the same point in the relationship as you.

Whether it be through Facebook, a drunken conversation over pizza (confirmed in the morning), or something more fancy, a relationship is only special if it’s mutual.

Though we are long past the days of getting pinned to let everyone know you’re his girl, be clear where you stand; nobody wants to be with a delusional dater.

Do NOT bring up your ex.

This is a total no-no. Your ex is your ex because they’re an “ex”ample of someone you shouldn’t be with!

All jokes aside, talking about your ex will make your new mate feel insecure and wonder if you still have feelings for your ex (which you might if you bring them up).

The only way to navigate anything is to look ahead, so stop looking back.

Give them space.

The first stage of a relationship is filled with lust and obsession with one another. It’s the best part. It’s the moment where everything they say and do is adorable, great, and you can’t get enough of it.

In order to prolong this stage for as long as possible, before even the way they say hi annoys you, give them space!

You don’t need to text him every little detail about your day, and he’s allowed to have a guy’s night without you.

Don’t rush it.

It’s easy to get caught up in a new relationship, especially when you really like the person. Ever since we were young, it’s been instilled in us to follow a plan.

Our playground rhymes told us that, “First comes love, then comes marriage, then comes a baby in the baby carriage.” There isn’t one set plan you have to follow, so don’t rush into anything you aren’t ready for.

And lastly, enjoy every part of it.

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